I really need some advice this women started in my place of work a few months back and we have become close. I’ve been helping her with a course she is doing in a few weeks and we have been texting every other day. I always start the texting but she always texts back using emoji like blush face wink face with tongue out. At work we have playful fun, if I showed her a picture of me with friends or family she would say, “aww lovely photo, pity about u haha”. We were supposed to do something yesterday together outside of work but she cancelled saying she was too tired but she was very sorry and that we can do it another time. The thing is I’m married but my marriage is nearly over, it has been for a while. My question is would she be a bit hesitant to spend time with me coz I’m married and don’t want trouble How would I know if she liked me now i have worked really hard on my marriage but to no avail. Would this girl not really show her true feelings till I’m single again? When we talk I can see a glimmer in her eye. Please any advice welcome
First of all, YOU ARE STILL MARRIED! Secondly, it’s never recommended to date a coworker. These are 2 red flags waving at you. You stated, “my marriage is nearly over”. Therefore, your marriage isn’t over. The fact that you said “its nearly over” means there is still a slight bit of hope that you may continue your marriage. If you want to go back into the dating game, at least file for legal separation. Last thing you want is to have a wife and a girl-friend on the side. As for your co-worker, it’s never advisable to date a colleague. Always remember, people gossip especially in the work place. Yes, your coworker is clearly flirting with you but it is only flirting. Some people are natural flirts and do not realize when they are being flirtatious. She most likely is keeping her distance from you because she knows you are married. Imagine if your coworkers found out that you two were dating? It would be a big mess for the both of you. First thing you need to do is finalize that your marriage is over then go to court and get a legal separation. Once you’ve completed that, start back in the dating pool.