Dear Miss Dela,
I was dating this guy I met online and then all of a sudden he disappeared. We had plans to spend the weekend together. He sent me a good morning text message and then I never heard back from him. I have called and texted him numerous times but he has not replied. Then I went on my facebook and Instagram page and noticed that he deleted me. I don’t understand why he stopped talking to me. We talked about taking the relationship further then he does this to me. I am so upset because I want to know what I said to make him stop talking to me. Is this is my fault?
I am sorry that you had to go through this experience. This has happened to me before, and it is not a good feeling. You start to question what went wrong and then you end up blaming yourself for his actions. First off let me tell you, he is an asshole! The fact that he made weekend plans with you and then sends you a text in the morning and then suddenly disappears, shows you that he is a jerk! You did absolutely nothing wrong. All he had to do was grow some balls and call you to cancel plans. I find it very suspicious that he deleted you from his social media. I suspect that he may have a girl-friend. When a man abruptly cuts you off for no explanation, there’s usually a reason. You may never know the reason which will eat up your mind. My suggestion would be to write a letter explaining how hurt you are by his actions. Most readers may not agree with this next step, but I would send your letter to him. Let him know that what he did was not okay and that he is a complete asshole. By sending the letter to him, this will be your closure. I guarantee you, he will come back with some sorry ass excuse. He is not worth your time and energy. If he is doing this early on in the relationship, imagine what he will do next. Don’t worry you will find a great guy that will not put you through this heartache. Look at this experience as dodging a bullet.