Dear Miss Dela,
I really don’t know what I should do now..
Basically about one and a half month ago, I got the number of this girl from my friend.
We began to chat and two days later, she said she just got rejected by a guy.
I accepted it and treated her better to help her to forget about him. But she was actually kept contacting him, trying hard to get him while we were dating. She was always holding her mobile and kept checking for someone’s message. and always texting someone while we were on the phone call. She made me shop for his gift..a dolphin doll and a book…Of course I did not know..but I found it one day. And felt I was just an option to her. If he finally begins to like her, then she would have just left me. Until 18th..of DEC..that is why she always asked me if we can just stay as a friend. She always said he is just her best friend but I obviously did not believe her.
Now she blocked his messenger and she is with me now. She says she loves me a lot, and I love her a lot too…She has been with me for five days together. Wake up and go to bed together on the same bed. We share our love everyday. But I can’t just forget about what happened…the way she treated me…I believe I have an instinct just like girls. Everything I felt was right..except for one thing…I was not even an option but just someone to make the guy feel jealous. She finally gave the dolphin doll and the book to him on 18th of DEC and realised she does not have a chance to be with him. So She chose to be with me I guess. Although she says I am everything to her now, I cannot just forget about it…She says she feels guilty for what she did….She is now trying hard to build up relationship with me now…but…still…..What should I do..?
This is really painful…i was busy for so many years and finally started a relationship with someone..but it turned out this way…….Should I continue with her..ha…
I will tell you this, being rejected is a crappy feeling. No one wants to be rejected yet alone strung along until the person wants you. When you initially liked this girl, you were not an option. The reason is because she was focused on pursuing another guy. It doesn’t mean that there was something wrong with you. At that time, she wasn’t interested in dating you. I’m pretty sure she knew you had feelings for her. It’s a bit selfish on her end because here you are being a supportive great guy and she’s not acknowledging it because she wants the attention from this other guy.
Based on your message, I can see that you are fully aware that she was putting you aside for this other guy. I am sure she genuinely feels guilty and loves you but if you want this to work, you have to move on from the past. The situation was presented to you from the beginning. Therefore, you made the choice to pursue a relationship with her.
If you love and care for this girl, you should focus on moving forward and building a strong loving relationship. If you see that you are still having difficulty moving on from her past behavior with you, then you may want to consider whether or not you should continue being in a relationship with her.