My relationship with my boyfriend is pretty recent (about four months in). We fell for each other really fast and ended up in a pretty crumby situation. He recently moved back to GA (we were both living in AL) and he wants me to join him. I am in limbo in terms of my current living arrangements. My belongings are at my home in AL but I really don’t want to live there (especially without him) mainly because I just hate AL, I am currently visiting with family in NY where I could stay if I really wanted to, but what I really want is to go live with him in GA. My problem is that I brought him to GA and I got to see him extremely happy, it warmed my soul that’s how happy he was. He wanted me to stay and see the city, but I didn’t have time so I left for NY. I am afraid that in this new life of his he is going to realize that he doesn’t need/want me there, so I don’t want to make this huge commitment if that’s going to be the case. We are also pretty bad at communicating. The reason I am posting here is because I don’t know if I should have this conversation with him. We are bad at texting and calling each other, but I feel as if that is something we need to be good at especially if we are going to be apart for a few months. But I don’t know how to bring that up without sounding pathetic or needy. I don’t know, I just need some advice 🙁
You stated that you brought him to GA, so why not move to GA since you introduced him to the state? Based on your message it sounds like you are willing and looking to move to another state. You cannot predict what will happen once you move to GA. Life is about taking risks and learning from our mistakes.
Right now you are putting all these assumptions about his feelings in your head. In order to know the facts of how he is feeling, you have to talk to him. Never assume!
If you are seeing that the two of you are bad at communicating when apart then you need to talk to your boyfriend about it. Communication is key.
You shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone that second guesses your feelings about coming off pathetic or needy. Who cares what he thinks….it’s your feelings!