My boyfriend and I are both 18 and have been going out for 9 months. In 4 months time I am moving to America to attend university while he remains at home (we both live in the UK) and obviously that poses problems for our relationship. He wants to try long distance and is fairly certain we can make it work, however I am not as sure. Don’t get me wrong, I love him very much and the thought of breaking up with him is tearing me apart, but I would rather end now on good terms that have to break up a couple of months in because neither of us can handle long distance. I guess I’m just very conflicted about what to do and I would love some advice about what you all thing on the long distance relationship front. Thank you!!
Long distance is very challenging. It requires a lot of communication, patience and trust. You are very young and you are moving to another country. I went to University here in the States and let me tell you, you will be meeting many boys. This is the time for the both of you to create your book of life and adventure. It is very common for young couples to break up before moving away to college. The reason is because you will be exposed to a variety of college students and will want to have fun. You may even be tempted to kiss another boy when out at a college party. Now if you were say 28 years old in a 2 year relationship then I would say give the long distance a shot. At 18, your personality is going to change through growth and maturity.
If neither of you can handle long distance then you may want to go with your gut feeling and break up. Always listen to your gut!