Dear Miss Dela,
I am at a point in my life where I am done succumbing to men. I have treated myself poorly off and on up until now and I feel my strength coming back. As women, I believe it is easy to fall into the whirlpool of casual sex and (for me) hoping it might turn into something more…even though I KNOW deep down, he is just not interested in that.
My question is, how do we stay on track after we have picked ourselves up?
First off, I’d like to say kudos to you for building yourself back up into a strong woman. We all yearn for attention and affection. It’s completely normal as women to hope that something casual will soon lead to more of a relationship.
Unfortunately, when a man is looking for casual sex he means just that! By all means, I am not saying that casual sex can never lead to a relationship. But honestly, I don’t believe the chances of that are very high.
My suggestion for you is to focus on yourself. Write down a list of goals that you would like to achieve. Another option is participating in activities or hobbies that you enjoy doing in your free time. This will motivate you to become a better you.
Be selective on who you date and do not feel pressured to have sex if you are not ready. Just remember, having sex does not mean the guy will pursue a relationship with you.
Love yourself and the right man will come your way.