Hi Miss Dela

My name is Mary and I am 39 years old with a 4 year old little boy. Unfortunately, my marriage ended with a divorce.  About a year ago I met a very nice man and we are now engaged! It seems like we have known each other for years. Everything is great with us and he has found a great balance with me and my son.

The problem is that his family doesn’t want to accept me. I am not comfortable with that! My concern is that he will be affected by his family and he will end our love story.How can I make the family accept me? I  have tried to convince him to present me to his family but he doesn’t want to do it and it make me nervous. What should I do?


Miss Dela Q:

Has your fiancé explained to you why he does not want to introduce you to his family?  Clearly they are making judgments about you without even meeting you, which is not fair! It is important for you to meet his family because you will be marrying him. I suggest, that you express your feelings to your fiancé on how you feel about him not allowing you to meet his family. Do you plan on having another child?  Is it important for you to have a relationship with his family as well as your children?  These are questions that you need to ask yourself before moving forward.  Always keep in mind the saying “when you marry someone, you marry the entire family”.  Of course that’s not always the case and I hope this is not the case for you.

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