So, I’ve been dating this girl for three months now. When we met it was all marvelous and amazing. We decided to “take it slow” to really get to know each other but nothing was slow about it. We went on a baecation twice in those three months. We had sex every weekend or any chance we had. We hung out with friends as we have the same group of friends. She would sleepover almost every chance she could and now yesterday she told me she wants to stop dating and be friends. Her reasoning was that she is stressed and overthinking things because I have been distant and that I do not communicate with her. I have been distant because she told me to take things slow. Also, I began to feel like I was not a priority. I let her go and said if this is your choice, I respect it completely. So, we called it quits on dating and I guess “friends” which is difficult for me to comprehend as she texted me the next day asking how my day is going. We texted for a bit but yes, I was petty and was being very cold in text and kind of ignoring her because I’m upset at how she friend-zoned me after so long. I’m not sure whether to keep her as a friend or is she missing me and trying to get my attention. Please, any advice would be great. I do like her a lot! I just think we should have talked, and it would have been okay but the route she took really hurt me.
It’s not uncommon for things to change suddenly in a relationship, and it seems like she might have had an “ah ha” moment. Just because things felt amazing to you doesn’t mean she felt the same way. She could be dealing with personal issues and realizing the need to focus on herself rather than being in a relationship. It’s understandable that you’re upset and feeling friend-zoned, but have you asked her why she wanted to take things slow? It’s essential to communicate openly about your feelings.
Being cold and petty might not have been the best move, as hurt feelings can lead us to react negatively. If you have strong feelings for her and don’t see yourself as just a friend, let her know. Communication is key, so reach out, apologize for your actions, and explain your emotions. Express that you’re interested in pursuing a relationship with her, but if she’s only looking for friendship, respect her decision and gracefully move on. Remember, it may be tough, but you’ve got this!